Western Leader : November 25th 2010
9 WESTERN LEADER, NOVEMBER 25, 2010 OPINION Wholesalers Clearance CHRISTMAS GIFTS 36 Apollo Drive Mairangi Bay (beside Wet & Forget) OPEN 7 DAYS 10am - 4pm Check out these Hot Prices! æ Children's Books from $3 æ Cook Books from $3 æ 2011 Diaries from $6 æ Xmas Roll Wrap from $4 æ Box of Xmas Cards from $4 æ Headlamps 12 LED $5 æ Chupa Chups 40 pack only $7.95 æ Oreos 36 pack were $40 only $12.00 æ Cupcake Kits were $34.95 only $12.0 0 æ Mentos were $30 only $12.95 æ T Shirts were $30.00 only $10.0 0 Plus many more great gifts arriving daily. 3314036AA RECEIVERSHIP CLOTHING SALE Lions Hall next to Ambulance Station, 243 Edmonton Rd, TeAtatu South 2 DAYS ONLY OPEN this Friday 26th Saturday 27th, 8am to 6pm "James & August" casuals from as little as $10 nothing over $40 Overseas samples Kids swim wear 00 - 6yr "Oshkosh" "Mini Minors" "O'Neil" Nothing over $15 Plus For work, Women's blouses, shirts, skirts, long and short Stocking fillers from as little as $2 AND Surf Gear and accessories Jeans, denim skirts, pants, shirts CLEARANCE DEPOT NEW/USED/ENDOFLINES/ LIQUIDATION STOCK Hours: Mon-Fri 9am - 3pm, Sat 10am - 3pm 637 Rosebank Rd, Avondale PH 815 1589 Huge variety of office & Household items new & used at HEAVILY DISCOUNTED PRICES!! • OFFICE FURNITURE • INDOOR / OUTDOOR FURNITURE • LINEN • BEDDING • HOUSEWARE • NAPPIES & MUCH MORE Standing up to violence Today Kiwis wear white ribbons to show they don't condone violence against women. Waitakere Anti-Violence Essential Services co-ordinator Debbie Hager explains how to help people living with violence. WHAT TODO Is the woman safe right now? No: Call 111 and ask for the police. Yes: Call Viviana Outreach 836-1987, Pacific Island Safety and Prevention Project 832-2555 or Tika Maranga Women's Refuge 833-9653. Debbie Hager A parade in Henderson today marked White Ribbon Day. But it was not a celebration. This annual event which occurs throughout New Zealand on November 25 is about speaking up about violence towards women and calls for men to take ownership of men's viol- ence. People who live without vio- lence in their lives often ask why women don't leave. It's important that we don't make assumptions about women who live in abusive situations or about the choices that they have. Over and over again I hear women talking about the responses that they've had when they ask for help. Comments such as you have to leave now'', I wouldn't put up with that'' or why do you let him treat you that way?'' are not helpful. None of us know how we would respond to living in an abusive situation until we're there. Leaving is frequently far more dangerous and difficult than staying. Only the person living with violence can under- stand what is safe to do and not do. Women understand how to survive, after all, they are still alive. One reason women don't leave -- and there are many -- is that they don't feel that their circumstances are understood and they don't have the support and resources that they need to make decisions about their safety and the safety of their children. Two things that do help are to acknowledge that the abuse is not their fault, it is always the responsibility and fault of the abuser, and to offer information about the services that are available. Leaving an abusive relation- ship is difficult and may take a very long time. Non- judgemental support is very important to this process. Don't give up on people who don't act on your time frame. In Waitakere the police have an average of 400 callouts a month to family violence incidents. The overwhelming majority of these are violence against women and children. Family violence is damaging and dangerous whether or not there is physical violence. Family violence means many things. It can be: Physical -- slaps, punches, kicks, using weapons Emotional -- making a woman think she's crazy, putting her down Verbal -- put-downs, harass- ment, humiliation Threats -- to safety and the safety of others including pets Isolation -- keeping a woman away from her friends, family and support Financial -- keeping a woman financially dependent Sexual -- molestation, rape, coercion Intimidation -- living in fear. White Ribbon Day asks us to speak out against violence when we see it, to be non- violent in our own lives and to support the women and chil- dren who we know are living with violence to find safety.
November 23rd 2010